Articles & Transcripts
Reading on Relational Repair
Written pieces, podcast transcripts, and videos on the patterns that damage connection and what it takes to repair them.
When Substance Use Is the Symptom We Can See
Why recovery sometimes requires looking beyond the substance and into the person, the brain, the relationships, and the family system
Pressure Is Information
How to notice unspoken pressure in families and dating relationships without treating every uncomfortable feeling as proof of manipulation
Dismissed
When Your Experience Is Not Allowed Into the Relationship and why dismissiveness is so corrosive, how good people learn it, and how to respond without disappearing.
Why We Sometimes Reject the Evidence That We Are Loved
Updating the story is a relationship skill.
The Mutual Blindness Behind Estrangement
Why some parents cannot see the patterns they inherited, and why their adult children may experience that blindness as a choice
I Told My Children Their Father Was On A Business Trip
What I understood years later about a father’s absence, a child’s nervous system, and the experiences children carry into adulthood.
The Humanity Behind The Behavior
"We are all just learning to be human for the first time." -J. Kingsley
When Family Cutoff Becomes Punishment
Not all distance is unhealthy. But sometimes withdrawal protects the family story instead of the person.